What's Your Action Level?

Are you self sabotaging your own movie of life?

Glorious morning!

Today I want to expand on a quote from Aristotle.

“ The purpose of knowledge is action, not knowledge “

Whoa!! This one hit me for sure. I don't know about you, but when I am interested in something and want to pursue or attain it, I dive into the knowledge of it. Looking back on my life I have realized that there were ( and still is ) times where the knowledge seeking was taking up time that I could have been taking action. I wonder if I was unconsciously letting my search for knowledge act as an excuse to not take action, in other words, I was just too interested and busy in the pursuit of it perhaps?. But was there an underlying fear that was doing the unconscious bidding for me.

As I am growing into my power and getting things accomplished with my actions, I have asked myself, why wouldn't I be this focused in the past and what was preventing me from following through with the proper action? The only thing that comes to mind is That four letter word, F.E.A.R. Fear is a thorn that unless removed, can prevent us from making our dreams come true. When we don't know that fear is the main reason we can’t seem to accomplish our goals, what happens? We don’t accomplish our goals. I guess the most important thing we can do when we are frustrated with our lives because things are not happening as we would like them to, is to question our own self. It wasn't until I started taking responsibility for all of the actions I took in the past that led me to the “ frustrated place “ that I realized it was up to me. I also examined my past mistakes and choices I made that contributed to the life I created. That examination mixed with eating some humble pie, helped me avoid actions or non actions that I am now exercising.

I discovered that fear was behind any self sabotage that was going on. I call it self sabotage because after all, if we love ourselves enough, we would never tolerate anything less than wonderful for ourselves. Fear can keep us from developing that self love. I used to smoke cigarettes back in the day when my kids were young and I ended up quitting for them. Not for myself at first. I was allowing the harmful product to enter my body knowing it could cause cancer and potentially kill me but I kept smoking anyway. Then one day one of my kids said to me “ mom you can die if you smoke cigarettes “. I'm thinking they had a lesson in school that day because he was very concerned and took the new knowledge he learned seriously. Why wasn't I taking it seriously?

Well, that day I decided I needed to quit because if I selfishly keep smoking as a mother, I could very well take myself out of their life with devastating consequences for them. I am now smoke free til this day. My point is, my love for my children's wellbeing was greater than the love for my own well being. That's when I realized I needed to really work on this self love thing, which leads me back to this fear thing. Smoking made me feel better, it soothed a stress that I was obviously not dealing with in a healthy way. Feel better from what? I was in an unhealthy marriage. Why wasn't I leaving ( action ) the marriage? FEAR. Any self sabotage is rooted in fear. Anything bad we tolerate in our life is supported by fear. Love is the opposite of fear. If I loved myself more years ago, I would have stopped smoking for ME. If I loved myself more years ago, I would have divorced sooner. I was fearful to leave because the prospect of supporting myself financially was overwhelming.

So back to Aristotle’s quote. “ The purpose of knowledge is action, not knowledge “  I had plenty of knowledge before my kids got the knowledge of how dangerous smoking is for your health. I had plenty of knowledge that my marriage was unhealthy. I was simply not taking action. Anytime we are not taking action that we know we should be taking to better our lives is rooted somewhere in fear. Do you love yourself enough to make your dreams come true? Is self sabotage going on unbeknownst to you? Backpack therapy can serve as an excellent tool to identify why. Make a free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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