Do You Conform To Others Opinions?

I KNOW WHATS BEST FOR YOU!!!!!

Glorious morning!

This morning i want to expand on not necessarily a quote from the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, but more of a statement from his teachings. Wayne Dyer has said

“ If you constantly conform to others opinions, You will never fully realize your own potential and become the person you are meant to be. “

This took me a long time to actualize in my own life for sure. Let’s see about this wisdom filled man Wayne Dyer first. Wayne Dyer was born in 1940 and died in 2015. He was an American self-help author and motivational speaker. He had a Bachelor’s degree in history and Philosophy and a Master’s in Psychology, and an Ed.D. in guidance counseling. His early career he worked as a highschool guidance counselor and had a successful private therapy practice. He later focused most of his time writing books and speaking.

What his advice says to me is, when we are under the belief that others know what's best for us then we will never explore our own desires and potentials. If we leave our life in other people's hands, then they will be our power going through life instead of tapping into and exercising our own power. The power to create and become is available to everyone. Whether we accept that gift is another story. The tricky part is, when we are children we have to conform to our caregivers' opinions. We don’t have a choice. We have to accept that they know what's best for us.

The problem starts when we grow older and we are able to make our own decisions , but keep the same pattern of accepting others opinions from childhood. This happens a lot especially if we had domineering or verbally abusive caregivers. It also can happen from a pattern of controlling caregivers who did not help us develop our own self reliance. If we did not grow up in a supportive and encouraging environment, we lack self esteem. Self esteem is imperative to be able to go against other people's opinions of us. For instance if a child has a natural burning love to help animals that are in need and then has an awakening one day to become a veterinarian but the parent’s discourage the child, then that child just might miss his or her calling in life. It is tragic if we came to this life and do not fulfill what we were meant to fulfill because of someone else's opinions. When we are children, parents have the right to dictate our lives. When we are adults, they do not have the right to do so.

I myself spent decades admiring other people's dreams and never spent enough time developing my own. I basically met my former husband and started dating him at 16. I was in awe at how motivated he was to work and save money and had all these dreams for his life. The trouble was, I did not make sure I added my desires and dreams to our story, I just focused on helping and supporting him with his dreams. I did not develop healthy self esteem enough to make sure the time we spent together included what I wanted. I guess you can say, I focused and admired him more than I admired myself. I looked up to him too much, and allowed myself to be lost in his needs and desires.

No one can help us live in a balanced relationship. That is completely up to us. No one can give us self esteem. That is completely up to us. I can safely say, for years and years I did not find out who I was meant to be. I always had dreams and desires inside, but never demanded myself to fulfill those desires and dreams. No wonder I was not happy and fulfilled throughout my marriage. Today I can easily agree with Wayne Dyer's teachings because I have made myself a priority. I found my courage and faced old fears that were keeping me stuck in a cycle of denying thyself. I am not happy because I left my husband, I am happy because I finally honored myself enough to be my own hero and with the help of God, I can do anything.

Are you living a life you are not happy with ? Let's talk about it. Let’s find out why and get to the bottom root cause of denying your own dreams. Make a free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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